Friday, August 15, 2008

Babies having Babies!

I've had a few young girls give birth since I started my new job; but this mom took the cake. 15 years old and not a ounce of good brain matter between her ears. I have to sorta block out my personal feelings and fears when I have a patient like her. I just feel so badly for these little ones going home with such young mothers. Sometimes the grandmothers aren't even much better if you know what I mean..
Oh I educated her about everything. Its just how I do my job. I love explaining whats ahead to prepare "mom" as I believe strongly that Knowledge is Power.
I explained the epidural she was going to get and how it would feel when it was time for her to push the baby out. I showed her how to pull her legs back and push thru her butt.
But this mother only wanted to scream. And scream she did..for my entire 8 hr. shift. I told her how to relax and breath. I even told her I had natural childbirth 4 times and Honest to God you Can give birth without feeling so distressed. But she would have none of it. Even her mother jumped into the drama. Instead of supporting and calming her daughter; she fed into her fear. All I heard from the family members was how awful and long their labors were.
I even took the mother aside and asked her to tell the other women not to talk about their difficult labors; as it was frightening her child.
But I swear. Some women really get off on dramatizing and scaring the bejeapers out of others.
So we had to deal with load moaning and screaming for 8 hrs. From one centimeter to 10. She almost was throwing herself off the bed when it was time to push. And instead of chin down and legs back; she kept pushing away and pulling her legs together. I swear I thought she was going to kick the Dr. in the face! When the baby was born, she showed little maternal instincts towards this lovely little girl. Instead, she spent the next 2 hrs talking on her cell phone to all her girlie friends. "Ewww you should of seen the Icky stuff on my baby" she said....
Shesh. There autta be a law..

5 comments:

San Diego Momma said...

Oh no! That distresses me. It just pains me to think of how that baby will be raised. My God, the mom will just be of legal drinking age when her daughter turns 6. Scary.

Cassie said...

Oh my goodness! That is so crazy. It reminds me of a girl that I knew in high school who had a baby at 16. Afterwards she told our class, "Did you know that after you have a baby you are supposed to wait 6 whole weeks to have sex again? Please. Like I could go 6 weeks without having sex!" Needless to say, she had another one the year we graduated high school. Sad, sad day.

Prisca said...

I am so with you! We have had an 11 year old on our floor give birth. It blows my mind.

Anonymous said...

I just gave birth six weeks ago (I'm 24)... and there was a young girl on the unit at the same time as I was who was 12 giving birth. It's sad that babies are having babies..

Jody said...

omg. I've Not seen anyone under 14 yet. How terribly sad...